Trauma-Informed Supports in a Gentle Teaching Framework: Insights from Karyn Harvey, PhD

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When we consider trauma-informed care, we think about healing—not just for those we support, but for the entire community of care. At the Gentle Teaching International Conference, I had the privilege of discussing how trauma-informed practices align with the Gentle Teaching framework. Together, these approaches create environments where safety, connection, and empowerment foster true healing.

From Pigeons to People: A Journey Toward Understanding

My journey in this field began in an unlikely place: training rats and pigeons in a behaviourist framework during my graduate studies. It was there I first realized the profound limitations of treating people like variables in a controlled experiment.

Years later, working in human services, I saw this approach mirrored in how people with disabilities were often labelled and managed. Behaviors were targeted, but stories were ignored. Interventions were implemented, but connection was neglected.

It wasn’t until I met John McGee, the founder of Gentle Teaching, that everything clicked. He reminded me of something vital: people need to feel safe, loved, and understood before they can thrive.

The Unseen Stories of Trauma

Trauma is pervasive in the lives of those we support. From experiences of neglect and abuse to the systemic trauma of institutionalization, the stories I’ve heard over my career are both heartbreaking and illuminating.

For example, James was labelled as “non-compliant” because he refused to shower. Only by listening to his story did we uncover the source of his behaviour: nightly hose-downs during his years in an institution. Similarly, Rashida’s cutting wasn’t “attention-seeking,” as staff believed—it was an expression of her pain from years of abuse and rejection.

These stories remind us that behaviour is communication. Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with this person?” we must ask, “What happened to this person?”

Listening as a Tool for Healing

Listening is the foundation of trauma-informed care. It’s not just about hearing words—it’s about validating experiences and creating space for people to feel safe sharing their truths.

One of the most transformative examples of this was Tamika, who expressed her longing for a boyfriend during her annual person-centred planning meetings. For years, her team overlooked this desire, focusing instead on “practical goals” like cooking. When her loneliness led her to a dangerous situation, the response was to restrict her independence rather than address the root cause.

Only when someone truly listened and validated her desire for connection did Tamika begin to heal.

Dr. Karen Harvey

Key Principles for Trauma-Informed Care

  1. Assume Trauma: While not everyone has PTSD, many have experienced trauma. Assume a trauma history and approach interactions with empathy.
  2. Focus on Relationships: Healing happens through connection. Relationships—both professional and personal—are central to recovery.
  3. Support Staff: Caregivers often carry their own trauma, compounded by vicarious trauma. Supporting their well-being is essential to maintaining a culture of gentleness.
  4. Celebrate Joy: Happiness is a healing force. Celebrate achievements, foster connection, and encourage meaningful purpose in the lives of those we support.

Relationships Are Everything

Research supports what we’ve known all along: relationships are the key to a fulfilling life. The Harvard Men’s Study, which followed participants for 75 years, found that happiness isn’t about wealth or status—it’s about meaningful relationships.

For the people we support, relationships can be a profound source of healing. Whether it’s a friendship, a romantic partnership, or simply the knowledge that someone cares, these connections transform lives.

A Call to Care

Trauma-informed care within a Gentle Teaching framework isn’t just about understanding trauma—it’s about fostering safety, connection, and empowerment. It’s about recognizing the humanity of every individual and honouring their unique journey.

To the caregivers, direct support professionals, and leaders reading this: thank you. Your work changes lives. And as you care for others, remember to care for yourselves. Your happiness and well-being matter, too.

Together, we can create a world where everyone feels safe, valued, and loved—a world where healing is possible.

Quotes:

On Relationships and Healing:

“Love heals. Connection heals. Relationships are everything. We all deserve to be seen, heard, and valued.”

On Understanding Behavior:

“Instead of asking, ‘What’s wrong with you?’ we need to ask, ‘What happened to you?’ That’s where the real work begins.”

On Empowering Individuals:

“Every life needs meaning and purpose. When people discover their value and have a mission, they can move beyond their trauma and truly thrive.”

On the Role of Caregivers:

“The most critical people in our organizations are the ones on the frontlines. If we don’t value them, how can we expect them to show value to others?”

On the Importance of Listening:

“The biggest breakthroughs don’t come from behavior plans or rewards—they come from listening, really hearing, and understanding someone’s story.”

On Resilience and Advocacy:

“We are the bridge between the world as it is and the world as it should be. Every act of kindness, every moment of care, builds that bridge.”

On Finding Happiness:

“Happiness isn’t just for the people we support—it’s for you, too. Take care of yourself. Pursue your joy, because you deserve it.”

On the Value of Every Human Being:

“Every person’s life is as valuable as the universe. Let us never forget that profound truth.”

Dr. Karen Harvey

Self-Determination in Sexual Health – Empowering Autonomy and Inclusion, by Natalya Mason

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Speaker: Natalya Mason

Sexual health is a fundamental part of being human, yet for individuals with disabilities, it’s often misunderstood, ignored, or actively restricted. At the Gentle Teaching Conference, Natalya Mason, a sexual health educator and social worker, delivered a powerful session on the intersection of sexuality, disability, and human rights, challenging us to reframe our biases and support self-determination.

What Is Sexual Health?

Natalya opened with the World Health Organization’s definition, emphasizing its holistic nature:

•Sexuality includes pleasure, identity, intimacy, and relationships, shaped by biological, social, and cultural factors.

•Sexual health goes beyond risk prevention (STIs, unwanted pregnancy) to focus on ensuring everyone has access to ideal sexual experiences—rooted in autonomy and choice.

Key Takeaway: Sexual health is not a privilege—it’s a human right.

The Barriers: Ableism and Assumptions

Natalya outlined how ableism perpetuates myths about people with disabilities:

  1. They are seen as non-sexual or incapable of understanding sexuality.
  2. Decisions about their bodies and relationships are often made without their input.
  3. Sexual health education frequently excludes disabled individuals entirely.

These biases deny people with disabilities their right to explore, learn, and define their sexuality on their own terms.

Promoting Self-Determination and Autonomy

Natalya emphasized that individuals with disabilities know their bodies and needs best. Supporting them means:

  • Providing accessible sexual health education tailored to their experiences.
  • Offering tools and resources that tackle topics like:
  • Consent and boundaries.
  • Navigating relationships and intimacy.
  • Sensory sensitivities during sexual experiences.
  • Ensuring they see themselves reflected in sexual health resources and media, affirming their identities and desires.

“Disabled youth are not just passive learners—they are experts of their own experiences.”

Reproductive Justice: A Framework for Inclusion

Natalya drew on the reproductive justice framework developed by Sistersong, highlighting three core rights:

  1. The right not to have children, with access to contraception and abortion.
  2. The right to have children, with access to services that support healthy pregnancies.
  3. The right to parent children in safe and healthy environments.

This framework underscores the importance of autonomy, dignity, and support for all individuals, particularly those from marginalized communities.

Shifting the Narrative to Sex Positivity

Sex positivity is the foundation of inclusive education—it celebrates sexuality as a natural, enriching part of life. Rather than focusing solely on preventing harm, Natalya advocated for creating spaces where disabled individuals can:

  • Explore their desires safely.
  • Develop relationships and intimacy.
  • Experience sexuality as a source of joy, connection, and empowerment.

Quote to Reflect On:

“Sex positivity isn’t just about avoiding the bad. It’s about striving for the good.”

It’s about striving for the good

The Path Forward: Supporting Inclusion and Rights

Natalya called on educators, caregivers, and policymakers to:

  1. Recognize and challenge their own ableism.
  2. Prioritize inclusive, accessible sexual health education that centers the voices of disabled individuals.
  3. Provide tools and resources that support autonomy, choice, and self-determination.

Conclusion: Centering Voices, Celebrating Rights

Sexual health and self-determination are universal human rights, and individuals with disabilities deserve the same opportunities to explore, express, and define their sexuality. By promoting inclusion, representation, and autonomy, we create a world where everyone is seen, heard, and empowered to live as their full, authentic selves.

Natalya’s message was clear: It’s time to listen, learn, and ensure that no one is left out of the conversation about sexuality.

Call to Action: Reflect on your own work or organization:

  • Are you providing accessible sexual health resources?
  • Are disabled individuals involved in shaping programs that impact them?
  • How can you challenge biases and promote autonomy in your community?

By shifting our perspective, we can create inclusive spaces that affirm sexuality as a right for all.

Link to Sexual Health Resources for Diverse Learners.

You Don’t Need Marketing—You Need a Movement: Capturing Our Collective Stories By Jeph Maystruck

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In a world overflowing with ads, algorithms, and analytics, traditional marketing no longer cuts it. The rules of engagement have shifted, and if you’re not telling a story, you’re already behind. But here’s the kicker—you don’t just need a good story. You need a movement.

At the Gentle Teaching International Conference 2024, I had the honor of sharing this message, and now I’m excited to dive into what it means to build something bigger than a brand—a movement fueled by collective stories, shared purpose, and genuine connection.

Start with Heart: Why Stories Matter More Than Facts

Growing up, I learned one of the most important lessons of my life: everyone has a superpower. My mom, who worked in group homes supporting people with disabilities, showed me the power of connection and empathy. This perspective shaped my approach to storytelling, both in life and in work.

Here’s the truth: facts fade, but stories stick. According to the Stanford Graduate School of Business, people remember stories 22 times more than facts alone. This means if you want your message to resonate, it’s not enough to list what you do—you need to show why it matters.

From Marketing to Movements

When I say you don’t need marketing, I don’t mean stop promoting yourself. I mean stop shouting into the void. Instead of broadcasting messages, invite people to participate in your story.

Movements happen when people feel like they’re part of something bigger than themselves. Look at Patagonia, whose mission to combat climate change resonates so deeply that customers see wearing their gear as a badge of purpose. Or think of the Savannah Bananas, who reinvented baseball with creativity, humor, and community engagement. These are brands that don’t just market—they inspire.

The Power of Participation

Participation beats promotion every time. Why? Because when people engage with your story, they become ambassadors for your cause.

At Creative Options Regina (COR), we’ve seen this firsthand through campaigns like 100 Acts of Kindness. What started as a simple idea—spreading kindness and recognizing unsung heroes in the community—turned into a movement. The stories we uncovered through that initiative weren’t just inspiring; they were transformative.

In one instance, an act of kindness from a group of kids changed someone’s life. A simple compliment on a difficult day can be life-saving, a reminder that even the smallest actions have immense power.

Unreasonable People Change the World

George Bernard Shaw once said, “The reasonable person adapts themselves to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to themselves. Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable person.”

Movements require a bit of unreasonableness. Whether it’s painting basketball courts with Buckets & Borders or creating socks that embody an organization’s values, change comes from those who refuse to accept the status quo.

Building Connections Through Collective Stories

Communities are built on connections, and connections are built through stories. If you’re not telling your story, someone else will—and they might not get it right.

COR exemplifies the power of storytelling. Their 150+ videos on Vimeo are more than just content; they’re moments that capture the heart of their mission. They show real people, real impact, and real progress. These stories not only document their work but also inspire others to join the movement.

How to Start Your Own Movement

1. Know Your Why: Why do you do what you do? Speak from the heart and invite others to connect with your purpose.
2. Engage Your Advocates: Focus on the people who already believe in you and give them the tools to spread your message.
3. Be Unreasonable: Push boundaries, take risks, and challenge the norm.
4. Participate, Don’t Just Promote: Involve your audience in meaningful ways—through events, stories, or small acts of kindness.
5. Keep It Real: Authenticity isn’t optional. People connect with vulnerability and honesty, not perfection.

One Starfish at a Time

Changing the world doesn’t happen all at once. It happens one story, one person, one act of kindness at a time. Like the boy throwing starfish back into the ocean, your actions may seem small—but to the one person you impact, they mean everything.

So, stop worrying about marketing. Instead, focus on creating moments, telling stories, and building movements. Your story matters. Now go out and share it.

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Five Core Beliefs of Servant Leadership, by Kevan McBeth

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Speaker: Kevan McBeth

Kevan McBeth explored the foundations of Servant Leadership, emphasizing human connection, empowerment, and supporting frontline workers to excel.

Key Points:

  • Leadership is about caring for the people who care for others.
  • Servant leadership flips traditional models: leaders serve from the bottom, empowering employees to deliver exceptional service.
  • Empowerment requires self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and building trust.
  • Actionable Takeaway:

“Your job isn’t to do it all—it’s to care for and grow the people who do.”

Your job isn’t to do it all—it’s to care for and grow the people who do

Five Core Beliefs of Servant Leadership

Kevan presented five practical beliefs:

1. It’s Not About You, But It’s All About You:

Focus on self-awareness and emotional intelligence to effectively serve others.

2. Everybody Matters, Nobody’s Perfect:

Leaders must nurture environments where everyone can bring their whole selves to work.

3. Aim for the Heart:

Lead with empathy and kindness. Separate problems from people during difficult conversations.

4. Lead for the 95%:

Build policies and cultures for the 95% of people who care, not to control the 5% who don’t.

5. Lead with Intentionality:

Small intentional acts of kindness create magic moments that inspire and empower.

Kevan McBeth

Stories of Impact – Servant Leadership in Action

Kevan’s WestJet story highlighted the value of trusting employees:

“We serve the 95%, not the 5%.”

Policies focused on trust empower employees to act in the best interest of customers.

Key Example: A bereavement policy with minimal barriers allowed frontline workers to help customers in need quickly.

Reflection: Are your organizational policies empowering or alienating employees?

Ugonna Prince Ernest Osigwe – Celebrating Black History Month

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Ugonna Prince Ernest Osigwe moved to Canada from Nigeria on April 7, 2023. Ugonna is originally from Imo State, which is located in the southeastern part of Nigeria. Imo State is renowned for its rich cultural heritage, which is beautifully reflected in its traditional attire, music, dance, festivals, arts and crafts, and the warm hospitality of its people. The majority of Imo State’s residents are Christians, with Catholicism being the most predominant denomination.

“While my parents continue to reside in Nigeria, I am currently living in Canada independently. The primary reason for immigrating to Canada was to pursue a quality education that would prepare me for real-world challenges,” said Ugonna.

His interest in Canada began during his early school years and solidified during his final term of secondary school. When he shared this aspiration with his parents after secondary school, they were genuinely excited and fully supportive, recognizing the vast opportunities and valuable experiences that moving abroad would offer. Their unwavering encouragement and support were instrumental in ensuring a smooth transition to Canada for Ugonna.

Despite the excitement that comes with the idea of moving to a developed country like Canada, leaving his home country was never an easy decision, and one of the most challenging aspects is being separated from his loved ones, knowing it will be a long time before he will see them again. The absence of their presence and the comfort of being close to family can be deeply felt, especially during significant milestones or moments when their support would mean the most. Maintaining connections through video calls, messages, and other forms of communication often becomes a vital way to bridge the distance. “However, no amount of technology can fully replace the warmth of being physically present with my family” shared Ugonna.

Ugonna faced some cultural shock like every immigrant that moves to Canada; he shares that he was instantly struck by the dramatic difference in climate. “Coming from a tropical region where temperatures regularly surpass 30 degrees Celsius, I was not prepared for the intense cold that hit me at Toronto Airport in April, just as winter was coming to an end. The cold was unlike anything I had ever encountered, marking the beginning of my new journey in this country,” shared Ugonna.

Asked how he approached the culture shock, he said he embraces the opportunities to learn, try new things and adapt to his surroundings with an open mind. “I found it especially helpful to connect with positive minded friends who had been living here longer, as their experiences guided me through my transition”. While there is a lot of joy in moving to a new country, Ugonna missed many things in his home country, but on the top of the list, he missed his loved ones and the comforting flavors of Nigerian local cuisine.

In comparison with other immigrants who came before him to Canada, his immigration journey has been largely smooth, although it has required some adjustments, particularly in adapting to a new culture and navigating a different educational system and job market. “At times, I’ve experienced feelings of isolation and homesickness. One of the most important lessons I’ve learned is the importance of creating my own happiness, as it can be challenging to manage feelings of depression when family is far away” shared Ugonna.

Ugonna shared that his experience has been largely positive. The local community has been welcoming, and he has found ways to integrate, whether through education, work, or social activities. “However, I’ve also had to overcome occasional feelings of isolation. There have been instances of subtle discrimination, but I’ve dealt with them by staying focused on my goals and drawing strength from my support network, including friends, family, colleagues and mentors. Talking about my experiences with people I trust has also been helpful. One misconception is that immigrants don’t contribute enough to society. The truth is, many immigrants work hard, bring diverse skills, and play a significant role in building the economy and culture.

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Ugonna also shared that the Black community faces a lot of challenges, such as labour market integration, income inequalities, and discrimination. Black History Month in Saskatchewan is a time not only for celebration but also for the discussion of these issues. The story of the Black community is one of resiliency, diversity, and a substantial contribution to the Canadian heritage; it still demands extra effort in order to allow for the full inclusion of all Black Canadians. “People may think all immigrants move solely for financial reasons, ignoring personal growth and education. For me, one of the best things about immigrating to Canada seems to have been the opportunity to pursue higher education and gain the knowledge and skills necessary for real-life challenges which will help me to contribute to the Canadian society.”

He also shares that he feels a growing sense of belonging in Canada and his work at COR has been a key part of this journey. “One of the most impactful aspects has been learning and practicing Gentle Teaching. Within a culture of gentleness, the relationship with the individuals I support has become more genuine and trusting. The connection is built on emotional bonds rather than control, creating a safe and nurturing environment.” “Something I’ve learned is that the more individuals trust me, the more the relationship grows. Gentle Teaching emphasizes supporting people with unconditional respect, and this philosophy has transformed both my personal and professional lives. It has made me more patient, empathetic, and intentional in my interactions. I’ve seen the positive reflection of this approach in the life of the person I support as they become more confident, emotionally secure, and connected. These experiences have deepened my sense of belonging at COR and within the wider community”.

Thank you, Ugonna, for sharing your journey to Canada and COR. We are grateful for everything you do as we pride ourselves on the human touch of every person that is part of the COR family.

 

The Universal Longing for Belonging: Why Human Connection Matters, by Dr. Anthony McCrovitz

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In a world where people often feel disconnected, Dr. Anthony McCrovitz reminds us of an undeniable truth: a sense of belonging is a universal, human longing. During his presentation, “A Sense of Belonging Is a Universal, Human Longing and Needs a Human Connection,” Dr. McCrovitz explored the profound impact of belonging and connection on our lives and how fostering these bonds can lead to healing and growth.

The Core of Belonging: Feeling Safe and Loved

At the heart of belonging lies the foundational need to feel safe and loved. Dr. McCrovitz emphasized that true belonging requires creating spaces where people feel valued, respected, and free to express themselves without judgment. This isn’t just about offering physical safety; it’s about emotional and psychological security that allows individuals to trust and connect deeply with others.

He explained that belonging doesn’t demand perfection but instead invites authenticity and vulnerability. It’s about being seen and valued for who you truly are, imperfections and all.

Connection, Not Correction

Dr. McCrovitz introduced a transformative idea: “Focus on connection, not correction.” He argued that instead of trying to change or fix people, we should seek to understand their experiences and meet them where they are. Connection fosters trust and creates the foundation for meaningful relationships, while correction often leads to defensiveness and further disconnection.

This approach is particularly important when working with individuals who have experienced trauma. Belonging offers them a path to healing by providing a safe space where their voices are heard, and their experiences are validated.

The Psychology of Interdependence

Dr. McCrovitz explored the idea of interdependence—the recognition that we are all deeply connected and reliant on one another. True belonging happens when individuals feel they are part of a supportive community where their contributions matter, and their presence is appreciated.

This sense of interdependence fosters a culture of care and collaboration, reminding us that we thrive not in isolation but through relationships that nurture and empower us.

The Role of Moral Memories

One of the most impactful parts of Dr. McCrovitz’s presentation was his discussion of moral memories. These are the deep, meaningful experiences that shape our sense of self and connection to others. He highlighted the importance of creating new, positive moral memories to help individuals rewrite their narratives and overcome past pain.

By fostering moments of connection, kindness, and understanding, we can help others build a new framework for belonging and self-worth.

Belonging in Action: Practical Steps

Dr. McCrovitz encouraged caregivers, educators, and community leaders to actively cultivate belonging by:

1. Creating Safe Spaces: Ensure environments are welcoming, inclusive, and free of judgment.
2. Validating Voices: Listen to and affirm people’s experiences without trying to “fix” them.
3. Fostering Interdependence: Build communities where everyone feels valued and connected.
4. Inviting Vulnerability: Encourage open, honest communication to deepen relationships.

Focus on connection, not correction

Final Thoughts

Dr. McCrovitz’s message is clear: belonging is not a luxury—it’s a necessity for human well-being. By prioritizing connection over correction and embracing our shared humanity, we can create a world where everyone feels valued, supported, and truly seen.

As you go about your day, remember: the smallest act of kindness or acknowledgment can be the seed of belonging for someone else. Together, we can build communities that heal, empower, and inspire.

Let’s make belonging a priority—for ourselves and for each other.

Trivial is Transformational, by Connie Jones

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Trivial is Transformational.

As a philosophy, Gentle Teaching puts the onus on us to change how we interact in the little moments together, and to take those opportunities to remind people that they are safe with us, loved by us, and that they are good, just as they are. Full stop. That means we show love even in the face of violent behaviours, to see those outbursts for what they are: brokenness, and ultimately, to stop trying to ‘mend’ a broken brain but instead, go for the heart.

That’s what founder John McGee called us to be: Menders of broken hearts.

Tall order? Maybe. But maybe it just takes a moment.

Now that I’m a grannie, I sometimes feel the responsibility more heavily than ever to ensure that my grandkids won’t develop hearts that ever need mending. As a Gentle Teacher, I’m keenly aware that right now, my sweet littles are learning all about themselves through their interactions with the adults around them, including me. I can’t forget the significance of seemingly trivial moments together. What is the message beneath my words, when I speak to them? What tone do I intentionally take? How mindful am I of my pacing, intensity, and word choices so as to convey positivity and reduce anxiety? Do my eyes speak of love, even when the kiddos are wreaking havoc on the house, the furniture, or – god bless ‘em – the dogs? Does my presence give them a safe space to just be? And what about my hands? I mean, I just want to grab those kiddos and gobble zeeberts all over their bellies and tickle them until they squeal. But even these loving moments together could become overwhelming for them, and I need to remember to move into their spaces with a keen awareness that my presence is big in their little worlds.

Gentleness is powerful. It might have more transformative power in the small moments that form moral memory than vengeance against thine enemies ever could, because where vengeance is felt in the storm, gentleness is found in the calm.

Like when I sang to my granddaughter while combing her hair softly. Or when I don’t rush through daily chores but invite them to help choose their clothes for the day, or set the kitchen chairs up at the sink so we can play in the suds while washing dishes together. Or work out the zoomies by cranking some music and having a dance party in the living room. These seemingly mundane moments carry huge significance. So, while we do things together, I try to be very mindful of each of my tools.

I think that kiddos have just as much value in this world when they’re tiny as they’ll have when they’re  grown – even in those times when my little angels’ behaviour isn’t exactly congruent with their value. I think that above and beyond anything else, all kids need to be reminded of how good and lovable they are, just as they are. During the time that we spend together, I want my grandkids’ powerful brains and beautiful hearts to get one thing straight: When they’re with me, they’re safe. And they’re loved, just as they are. Full stop.

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Connie Jones is a certified Gentle Teaching Ambassador with Gentle Teaching Canada. She has a Master of Arts in Leadership, three grown kids and four grandchildren. She currently lives in Saskatchewan with her partner of 35 years, two dogs, and five unfinished manuscripts.

 

How Gentle Teaching Promotes Unity in Caregiving, by Charles Woodard, PhD

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In today’s world, where stress and disconnection seem to dominate, the concept of Gentle Teaching stands as a powerful reminder of the importance of unity, compassion, and connection in caregiving. Dr. Charles Woodard’s presentation, “Gentle Teaching Promotes Unity,” offered a heartfelt exploration of how this philosophy transforms relationships between caregivers and those they serve.

Unity: The Foundation of Gentle Teaching

Dr. Woodard highlighted that unity begins with a shared sense of purpose and mutual respect. It’s about recognizing, accepting, and appreciating the individuality of every person—caregivers, those being cared for, and the organizations that bring them together. At its core, unity is both a goal and a process, requiring unconditional love, collaboration, and understanding.

He emphasized the idea of “team” as an acronym: Together Each Achieves Much. This simple yet profound concept illustrates how working together in harmony can make even the biggest tasks manageable.

Unconditional Love as a Catalyst for Unity

Gentle Teaching is rooted in the belief that unconditional love is the highest form of care. According to Dr. Woodard, this love is kind, compassionate, and nurturing—it helps caregivers identify and meet the unique needs of others. But unconditional love must start within. Dr. Woodard shared the importance of “filling your own love tank” through positive self-talk and self-care, reminding us that caregivers can only give love if they have it themselves.

The Tools of Gentle Teaching

To foster unity, Gentle Teaching relies on four primary tools:
1. Words: Words have the power to hurt, heal, and connect. Dr. Woodard encouraged caregivers to use affirming, uplifting language, both with others and with themselves.
2. Presence: A caregiver’s demeanour and energy can create an environment of safety and trust. Being fully present and approachable sets the tone for meaningful connections.
3. Hands: A gentle, respectful touch can communicate safety and love, especially for individuals who may have experienced negative interactions in the past.
4. Eyes: A warm and compassionate gaze shows acceptance and care, allowing caregivers to truly see beyond a person’s behaviours to their underlying needs.

Charles Woodard

Why Unity Matters in Caregiving

Unity isn’t just a nice idea—it’s a practical tool that makes caregiving more effective and fulfilling. Dr. Woodard explained that when caregivers feel united and supported, they’re better equipped to withstand stress, navigate challenging situations, and provide consistent, loving care. Unity creates a ripple effect, building stronger relationships and fostering a culture of mutual respect.

Key Takeaway: Be What You Expect to See

Dr. Woodard closed his presentation with a powerful message: “Be what you expect to see.” If you want to see love, be loving. If you want to see respect, be respectful. Gentle Teaching is not just a technique; it’s a way of being. It asks caregivers to embody the values they wish to see in their interactions, creating a space where unity can flourish.

Final Thoughts

Dr. Woodard’s insights remind us that caregiving is more than a task—it’s a relationship. By embracing the principles of Gentle Teaching, caregivers can create an environment where unity, love, and mutual respect thrive, ultimately improving the lives of everyone involved.

Whether you’re a professional caregiver, a parent, or simply someone who values connection, the philosophy of Gentle Teaching offers a guide for building stronger, more compassionate relationships in all aspects of life.

Nethmi’s Story: Nothing can beat a good Sri Lankan rice and curry

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Nethmi joined COR in 2023. Originally from Sri Lanka, she moved to Regina to pursue her Bachelor in Social Work at the University of Regina.  Sri Lanka is a beautiful island in South Asia, which is known for its stunning landscape and diverse culture. It’s also famous for Ceylon tea! Sri Lankan hospitality is known for its warmth and genuine kindness. Visitors are often welcomed with open arms into homes, where sharing a meal is a cherished tradition. From rice and curry combinations to street food like hoppers (pancakes) and kottu roti (chopped roti with vegetables and meat), each bite tells a story of heritage and regional diversity.

Nethmi took a leap of faith to immigrate to Canada after several conversations and research about Canada with her husband. What attracted them to choose Canada were the many opportunities offered to immigrants. Canada is also known for offering high quality education and research opportunities.

Nethmi arrived to Canada alone and her husband came after. Nethmi confessed that coming to Canada on her own without any support system was very challenging. “It was winter when I arrived and coming to a new country without any friends or family wasn’t easy at all! I still remember how I called back home and told them that I wanted to go back home on the first night,” shared Nethmi.

Like many who make Saskatchewan their home, the biggest cultural shock is indeed the cold weather. Nethmi really struggled with the climate, sharing that she was not equipped for the Canadian winter. The clothes she brought from Sri Lanka were simply not good enough for the cold weather.

Nethmi expressed that she felt homesick and really missed her country, mainly her family and friends. She also missed Sri Lankan food. She is always looking forward to visit her home country for a vacation in order to indulge in the cultural food. “Nothing can beat a good Sri Lankan rice and curry,” Nethmi shared proudly.

Despite the cultural shock and the challenges that come with immigrating to a new country, Nethmi said that immigrating to Canada was the best decision for her husband and herself. “It is nice to be independent, it wasn’t easy, but it is worth it. I learned so many things and it’s a new experience and a good place for my personal growth. The opportunity for me to pursue a better education with greater career opportunities will help me to have a good quality of life,” shared Nethmi.

Canadians are recognised for their sense of hospitality and their friendly nature. Nethmi shared that one thing she loved was how welcoming and friendly people are in Canada. She said she feels more freedom to do whatever she wants to, without people’s judgement.

Nethmi confessed that after learning about Gentle Teaching, she felt compelled to apply to work at COR. While doing her research about COR, she knew that she wanted to be part of our organization. “Within a culture of gentleness, the relationship with individuals supported becomes more genuine and trusting. The connection becomes more emotional, rather than control. And something I’ve learned is the more the individuals trust you, the relationship grows. Gentle Teaching also emphasizes to support poeple with unconditional respect,” said Nethmi.

Asked about what traditions and celebration she likes in Canada, Nethmi shared that Christmas has been really meaningful to her. “Even though myself being a Buddhist, Christmas also had been a celebration where everyone comes together in the spirit of sharing. Being in Canada, I have celebrated Christmas once and it was amazing to be together with friends. I love Christmas shopping and sending little gifts to my family and friends. That’s one of my favourite things to do during the Christmas season.”

Thank you Nethmi for choosing Saskatchewan and for choosing COR. We are grateful to have you a part of the COR family.

Japleen’s Story: My involvement with COR has truly enriched my life

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Japleen Kaur immigrated to Canada from Chandigarh, India in 2022. Chandigarh is the capital of the northern Indian state of Punjab and Haryana. Picturesquely located in the foothills of the Shivaliks, it is known as one of the best experiments in urban planning and modern architecture of the twentieth century in India.

Japleen set her eyes on Canada to pursue her education as her brother, Param, was already in Canada.  She also choose Canada for the breathtaking natural beauty and vibrant multicultural atmosphere.

Like thousands of immigrants that choose Canada to settle down, Japleen shares that she wanted to be in a place where she could learn from diverse cultures and meet people from all around the world.  “Knowing my brother was here, made the thought of adjusting much easier, as I would have a piece of family close by. Also, I knew that Canada respects Registered Nurses (RNs) and offers a manageable patient-to-nurse ratio, which was a significant factor for me since I had worked as an RN in India for about two years and the work pressure there was overwhelming. I believed that moving to Canada would allow me to pursue my passion for nursing in a more supportive environment,” said Japleen.

Japleen’s strong educational background helped her secure admission into a one-year postgraduate certificate programme in Gerontology at a college in Toronto. Japleen is convinced that the quality of education and the opportunities she has found here make it all worthwhile. “Navigating the lengthy immigration process and formalities was made easier with some guidance and a lot of determination” shared Japleen.

Japleen shared that there were definitely a few surprises when she moved from Chandigarh to Canada. “One of the biggest cultural shocks was how different social interactions are here. People in Canada are more individualistic and casual in their relationships, which is quite different from the community-oriented and formal interactions I was used to back home,” said Japleen. She also shared that another thing that caught her off guard was the level of politeness and patience in everyday situations—like how people form orderly lines and wait for their turn while grocery shopping.

The cold weather was also a big cultural shock for Japleen. “Coming from a place with mild winters, dealing with the extreme cold here was (and still is) a major adjustment. On the positive side, I’ve found Canadians to be incredibly friendly and welcoming, which has really helped me feel more at home despite the cultural differences” shared Japleen.

Japleen was introduced to COR by her brother, Param.

“My journey to COR has been incredibly positive. It has provided me with a sense of community and support that has been helpful in my adjustment to life in Canada. I love COR because, at the end of the day, I feel like I’ve made a difference in someone’s life, which not many jobs offer. I feel appreciated and valued, and I am grateful to be part of the COR family,” shared Japleen.

Japleen also shared that she has been experiencing personal growth and feels like a completely different person than she was a year ago. “My involvement with COR has truly enriched my life, and I’m excited about what the future holds for me”, shared Japleen.

Japleen also confessed that working at COR has its own benefit. She shared that she is a very quiet person and social interactions sometimes gives her anxiety, but at COR, she feels more at ease because everyone is so kind and appreciative, which significantly reduces her anxiety. “I feel like I’m getting better, if not the best, learning each day through my journey at COR”, shared Japleen.

Living far from family also comes with its own challenges, Japleen shared. “The sense of isolation and the lack of immediate support are much tougher than I had imagined. There were some extremely difficult days when I was living in Toronto all by myself. Having family around makes a huge difference, and it’s something I deeply miss.”

Asked if she would choose Canada all over again, Japleen replied positively. “I’d choose Canada all over again – despite the challenges, I am determined to become a Registered Nurse (RN) here, and I believe Canada offers the best opportunities to achieve this dream. My journey has been tough, but I’m confident it will be worth it in the end. The education, professional opportunities, and support I’ve found here are unmatched,” shared Japleen.

Thank you, Japleen, for choosing Canada and COR. You make a difference every day and we are proud of you.