When I first started supporting at Creative Options Regina, the idea of creating and maintaining a culture of gentleness with the individuals I was to serve was something I was extremely nervous about. Looking back, I am not sure why. The guys I support have made the approach of Gentle Teaching extremely easy. While this practice isn’t something that can be considered a lock-step matter and there certainly aren’t any fixed answers for certain situations, creating a culture of gentleness to me involves creating a relationship based on unconditional love. Having the opportunity to hang out and learn about the three guys I support, along with engaging with all of their interests on a weekly basis has allowed me to develop true ever-lasting friendships with each of the guys.

Gentle Teaching is important because it provides an environment that allows everyone to be themselves. It is a hands-on approach that has allowed me to change internally and spiritually. The opportunity to provide care for these individuals in their physical, intellectual and emotional needs has given me a new perspective on not only my career in education, but also daily life. When I began creating a culture of gentleness, I found the trust that I placed in the individuals I support was reciprocated. This brought a new meaning to me as an individual, as I now found myself transforming into someone who looked to promote a similar culture of gentleness with everyone around me.

To maintain this relationship I have built with the individuals I serve, I continuously set out to achieve their own personal goals that they have set. Working through these goals has only strengthened my relationship with each individual that I support. Whether it be writing skills, weight loss/exercise or healthier eating it is always great to see the progress each individual has while striving for their goals. As I continue to serve these individuals I am beginning to see the development of interdependence, the encouragement of creativity and a shared trust that is forming between us.

Listening to the individuals I serve, being able to empathize with them and having an awareness of their needs allows me to support them to the best of my ability. As I continue my education at the University of Regina and continue to support through COR, I will continually look for opportunities to promote a culture of gentleness.

Matt

COR Family Member