As a support, I try to create/maintain a culture of gentleness with those I serve simply by being present and giving all I have to offer. I understand that I am in this person’s life for a reason and therefore, it is my duty to be truly invested in that person. When entering a friend’s space, it is important to remember that any issues that may have risen during your day, should not carry over and become their issue as well. I am aware that my actions and language (both verbal and non-verbal) have a tremendous impact on others and that the way I carry myself should be gentle and genuine. After all, if this is how I’d like others to support me, then I need to reciprocate that.
Realizing that every day is a new day and that there are always new experiences to be had, allows for suspense and a chance for growth – not just for whomever I am with, but for myself as well. I cannot and will not expect others to be perfect, as it is impossible to be as such. Instead, I open myself up completely and share aspects of my life with those I support, so that they know they have someone to confide in when they feel like sharing (whether it is the good or the not-so-good).
I always try to be cognizant of my actions while spending time with those I serve. I do so by utilizing the four pillars and tools. These tools, which I’m referring to include: my hands, eyes, words, and presence. When I’m supporting, I remain aware that if my hands are clenched or fidgeting, then this will be obvious to the person who I am with, resulting in them to feel unsafe. Therefore, even something as simple as keeping my arms by my sides with open, relaxed hands is very important. I use my eyes as tools by maintaining ‘peaceful’ eye contact with whomever I am speaking or listening to. When I use my words, I attempt to speak slowly and clearly, so that communication doesn’t get lost in translation. As well, ensuring the things I do say are positive, motivating, and uplifting is a key component to Gentle Teaching. Finally, I use my presence as a tool by doing just that – being present. When you are with someone, it is important to let them know that you are not only there physically, but emotionally as well. Be involved in what that person has to say by asking specific questions or summing up what they have already told you.
Jordan
COR Family Member
Meet The COR Family: Morianna Fink
