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Meeting People Where They Are: The Intersection of Harm Reduction and Gentle Teaching

Speakers: Dave Lappin and Nathan Murdoch

In a moving and eye-opening session, Dave Lappin and Nathan Murdoch led a conversation that peeled back the layers on how we support people living at the intersection of intellectual disability, substance use and mental health challenges. Their session, “Harm Reduction and Gentle Teaching,” wove together storytelling, philosophy and lived experiences, reminding us what it truly means to care for others with dignity, respect and compassion.

This wasn’t just a theoretical discussion. It was a heartfelt invitation to see people not through the lens of their behavior or diagnoses, but through the lens of their humanity.

The Shifting Landscape of Support

Dave shared how their agency’s focus has evolved over the years—from primarily supporting individuals with intellectual disabilities in traditional residential models, to now welcoming people who often carry complex experiences with trauma, substance use and mental health.

Fifteen years ago, supporting someone who smoked cannabis or wanted a romantic relationship was seen as a challenge. Today, that’s the norm. As Dave said: “We’ve had to drastically change how we support folks, and more importantly, how we see them.”

The people they serve are no longer neatly categorized. They’re layered, like all of us. This has required a shift from systems of control to systems of care.

What Is Harm Reduction?

At its core, harm reduction is not about forcing change. It’s about meeting people where they are—emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

It doesn’t demand abstinence. It doesn’t shame or isolate. It accepts that people use substances for a variety of reasons—often rooted in trauma, pain, or disconnection—and it seeks to reduce the harm they experience, not the person.

Nathan brought this to life through stories and staggering statistics: In Canada, over 6,000 opioid-related deaths occurred in 2023 alone. That’s more than 16 lives lost per day—a reality we cannot ignore.

The power of harm reduction isn’t just in giving someone a clean needle or a safe space to use. It’s in offering relationship, respect, and reconnection. As one powerful video clip shared during the session put it:

“Harm reduction is the opposite of tough love. It’s love, period.”

Gentle Teaching: A Philosophy That Embraces

If harm reduction offers the how, Gentle Teaching offers the heart.

Gentle Teaching isn’t about correcting or fixing people. It’s about creating environments where people feel safe, loved, and truly seen. It’s about recognizing that everyone has the right to make choices—even risky ones—and that our role isn’t to judge, but to accompany.

“You wouldn’t let your child stay inside forever because they were afraid of the sun. You’d hand them sunscreen and walk with them outside,” Dave shared, quoting Dr. Adi Jaffe.
That, he said, is harm reduction.

Gentle Teaching and harm reduction share the same language:

• Respect
• Compassion
• Dignity of risk
• Relationship before rules

Why Language Matters

Words shape how we view people—and how they view themselves. Dave reminded us that describing someone as a “meth head” or “addict” reduces them to a label. Instead, we can speak medically and respectfully: “a person who uses meth,” or “a person navigating substance use.”

This is more than semantics. It’s about affirming a person’s worth. It’s about seeing their whole identity—not just their pain.

Creating Safe Spaces in Unsafe Systems

Nathan spoke passionately about the need to offer safe, trauma-informed spaces—especially when the system so often fails to do so.

Imagine walking into a hospital high, desperate for help, only to be turned away or judged. Imagine trying to make an appointment but being lost in a week-long spiral. For many people, that’s the reality.

At their agency, that reality is met with open doors, extra clothes in the office, and naloxone kits at the ready. It’s not enabling—it’s empowering. It’s saying: You matter, even when you’re struggling. Especially then.

Understanding the Roots of Addiction

One of the most powerful stories shared was the “Rat Park” experiment by Dr. Bruce Alexander. In it, isolated rats with nothing to do consumed drugs at high rates. But when placed in a stimulating, connected environment—Rat Park—they used far less.

“It’s not the drugs. It’s the cage,” Nathan explained.
Humans, like rats, are wired for connection. Remove that, and pain fills the void. Addiction isn’t just about substances—it’s about suffering.

What Now? What Next?

Harm reduction isn’t perfect. Neither is Gentle Teaching. But when practiced together, they offer something radical in its simplicity: love over judgment, safety over shame, and connection over control.

It’s time we recognize:

• That people who use drugs are people first.
• That not everyone will choose sobriety, and that’s okay.
• That one clean moment, one safe interaction, one compassionate conversation can change a life.

As Dave said, “Everyone who experiences addiction has experienced trauma.” That’s a truth we cannot unsee.

Let’s Keep Talking

This session was more than a presentation—it was a call to action.

To speak differently.
To support differently.
To see differently.

Harm reduction and Gentle Teaching remind us that when we choose love, safety, and relationship, we don’t just reduce harm—we create hope.

When we think about leadership, it’s often accompanied by ideas of authority, decision-making, and results. At Creative Options Regina (COR), however, leadership is reimagined through the lens of a culture of gentleness. This philosophy emphasizes creating environments where everyone—leaders, team members, and individuals we support—feels safe, valued, and connected.

In a recent presentation at the Gentle Teaching International Conference, we reflected on our experiences fostering such a culture, sharing stories, lessons, and practices that have shaped our journey.

A Journey Rooted in Gentle Teaching

Deirdre Mercer: My first exposure to Gentle Teaching was over 25 years ago during a three-day practicum with Dr. John McGee. The experience set my path as a young professional, shaping my belief in creating trust-filled relationships as the foundation for learning and growth. Throughout my career, I’ve seen firsthand how this philosophy transforms individuals and organizations.

Jim Temple: At COR, Gentle Teaching has been part of our DNA since our inception in 2009. Unlike many organizations that adopt this approach later, COR was built on these principles, enabling us to create a culture that permeates every level of our organization—from the boardroom to the homes where we provide support.

Why Trust Matters

Trust is the cornerstone of effective leadership and teamwork. It’s not just about getting the job done; it’s about creating an environment where individuals feel safe to express themselves, take risks, and grow. At COR, we’ve worked diligently to embed trust-building practices into our organizational fabric.

We’ve done this by:

1. Listening and Learning: Through focus groups, surveys, and one-on-one conversations, we’ve asked our team what trust looks like to them. The feedback informed our organizational practices, from leadership training to day-to-day interactions.

2. Defining Shared Values: COR’s values—Innovation, Making a Difference, Autonomy, Growth, Integrity, Nurturing and Inclusive Community, and Engagement (IMAGINE)—were developed collaboratively with employees. These values guide our decisions and remind us of our collective purpose.

3. Implementing Tools for Growth: Inspired by Brené Brown’s Braving framework, we’ve trained leaders to cultivate trust through clear communication, accountability, and mutual respect.

From Safe and Loved to Growth

Creating a culture of gentleness isn’t just for the individuals we support—it’s a way of being that extends to every interaction. Leadership at COR focuses on helping people feel safe and valued, paving the way for growth.

When individuals feel secure in their environment, whether in the workplace or a classroom, they flourish. Deirdre shared a personal story about her daughter Delaney, whose academic success was profoundly influenced by teachers who made her feel safe and loved. This same principle applies to workplaces: trust and connection create the conditions for people to thrive.

Key Takeaways for Cultivating Safe and Valuing Teams

• Invest in Relationships: Leadership is about more than managing tasks. It’s about forming meaningful connections that encourage trust and engagement.
• Practice Empathy: Take time to listen and understand the perspectives of those you lead. This fosters a sense of safety and belonging.
• Be Clear and Intentional: Communication is a cornerstone of trust. As Brené Brown puts it, “Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind.”
• Encourage Collaboration: Teamwork thrives when people feel valued and supported. Make space for collective care and connection.

Together, We’re Stronger

Leadership in a culture of gentleness is a journey of evolution—one where we continually learn, grow, and improve. At COR, we remain committed to fostering environments where people feel safe, valued, and empowered to reach their full potential.

Let’s reimagine leadership as a practice of nurturing trust and building connections. Together, we can create spaces where everyone thrives.

In a world overflowing with ads, algorithms, and analytics, traditional marketing no longer cuts it. The rules of engagement have shifted, and if you’re not telling a story, you’re already behind. But here’s the kicker—you don’t just need a good story. You need a movement.

At the Gentle Teaching International Conference 2024, I had the honor of sharing this message, and now I’m excited to dive into what it means to build something bigger than a brand—a movement fueled by collective stories, shared purpose, and genuine connection.

Start with Heart: Why Stories Matter More Than Facts

Growing up, I learned one of the most important lessons of my life: everyone has a superpower. My mom, who worked in group homes supporting people with disabilities, showed me the power of connection and empathy. This perspective shaped my approach to storytelling, both in life and in work.

Here’s the truth: facts fade, but stories stick. According to the Stanford Graduate School of Business, people remember stories 22 times more than facts alone. This means if you want your message to resonate, it’s not enough to list what you do—you need to show why it matters.

From Marketing to Movements

When I say you don’t need marketing, I don’t mean stop promoting yourself. I mean stop shouting into the void. Instead of broadcasting messages, invite people to participate in your story.

Movements happen when people feel like they’re part of something bigger than themselves. Look at Patagonia, whose mission to combat climate change resonates so deeply that customers see wearing their gear as a badge of purpose. Or think of the Savannah Bananas, who reinvented baseball with creativity, humor, and community engagement. These are brands that don’t just market—they inspire.

The Power of Participation

Participation beats promotion every time. Why? Because when people engage with your story, they become ambassadors for your cause.

At Creative Options Regina (COR), we’ve seen this firsthand through campaigns like 100 Acts of Kindness. What started as a simple idea—spreading kindness and recognizing unsung heroes in the community—turned into a movement. The stories we uncovered through that initiative weren’t just inspiring; they were transformative.

In one instance, an act of kindness from a group of kids changed someone’s life. A simple compliment on a difficult day can be life-saving, a reminder that even the smallest actions have immense power.

Unreasonable People Change the World

George Bernard Shaw once said, “The reasonable person adapts themselves to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to themselves. Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable person.”

Movements require a bit of unreasonableness. Whether it’s painting basketball courts with Buckets & Borders or creating socks that embody an organization’s values, change comes from those who refuse to accept the status quo.

Building Connections Through Collective Stories

Communities are built on connections, and connections are built through stories. If you’re not telling your story, someone else will—and they might not get it right.

COR exemplifies the power of storytelling. Their 150+ videos on Vimeo are more than just content; they’re moments that capture the heart of their mission. They show real people, real impact, and real progress. These stories not only document their work but also inspire others to join the movement.

How to Start Your Own Movement

1. Know Your Why: Why do you do what you do? Speak from the heart and invite others to connect with your purpose.
2. Engage Your Advocates: Focus on the people who already believe in you and give them the tools to spread your message.
3. Be Unreasonable: Push boundaries, take risks, and challenge the norm.
4. Participate, Don’t Just Promote: Involve your audience in meaningful ways—through events, stories, or small acts of kindness.
5. Keep It Real: Authenticity isn’t optional. People connect with vulnerability and honesty, not perfection.

One Starfish at a Time

Changing the world doesn’t happen all at once. It happens one story, one person, one act of kindness at a time. Like the boy throwing starfish back into the ocean, your actions may seem small—but to the one person you impact, they mean everything.

So, stop worrying about marketing. Instead, focus on creating moments, telling stories, and building movements. Your story matters. Now go out and share it.

In a world where people often feel disconnected, Dr. Anthony McCrovitz reminds us of an undeniable truth: a sense of belonging is a universal, human longing. During his presentation, “A Sense of Belonging Is a Universal, Human Longing and Needs a Human Connection,” Dr. McCrovitz explored the profound impact of belonging and connection on our lives and how fostering these bonds can lead to healing and growth.

The Core of Belonging: Feeling Safe and Loved

At the heart of belonging lies the foundational need to feel safe and loved. Dr. McCrovitz emphasized that true belonging requires creating spaces where people feel valued, respected, and free to express themselves without judgment. This isn’t just about offering physical safety; it’s about emotional and psychological security that allows individuals to trust and connect deeply with others.

He explained that belonging doesn’t demand perfection but instead invites authenticity and vulnerability. It’s about being seen and valued for who you truly are, imperfections and all.

Connection, Not Correction

Dr. McCrovitz introduced a transformative idea: “Focus on connection, not correction.” He argued that instead of trying to change or fix people, we should seek to understand their experiences and meet them where they are. Connection fosters trust and creates the foundation for meaningful relationships, while correction often leads to defensiveness and further disconnection.

This approach is particularly important when working with individuals who have experienced trauma. Belonging offers them a path to healing by providing a safe space where their voices are heard, and their experiences are validated.

The Psychology of Interdependence

Dr. McCrovitz explored the idea of interdependence—the recognition that we are all deeply connected and reliant on one another. True belonging happens when individuals feel they are part of a supportive community where their contributions matter, and their presence is appreciated.

This sense of interdependence fosters a culture of care and collaboration, reminding us that we thrive not in isolation but through relationships that nurture and empower us.

The Role of Moral Memories

One of the most impactful parts of Dr. McCrovitz’s presentation was his discussion of moral memories. These are the deep, meaningful experiences that shape our sense of self and connection to others. He highlighted the importance of creating new, positive moral memories to help individuals rewrite their narratives and overcome past pain.

By fostering moments of connection, kindness, and understanding, we can help others build a new framework for belonging and self-worth.

Belonging in Action: Practical Steps

Dr. McCrovitz encouraged caregivers, educators, and community leaders to actively cultivate belonging by:

1. Creating Safe Spaces: Ensure environments are welcoming, inclusive, and free of judgment.
2. Validating Voices: Listen to and affirm people’s experiences without trying to “fix” them.
3. Fostering Interdependence: Build communities where everyone feels valued and connected.
4. Inviting Vulnerability: Encourage open, honest communication to deepen relationships.

Final Thoughts

Dr. McCrovitz’s message is clear: belonging is not a luxury—it’s a necessity for human well-being. By prioritizing connection over correction and embracing our shared humanity, we can create a world where everyone feels valued, supported, and truly seen.

As you go about your day, remember: the smallest act of kindness or acknowledgment can be the seed of belonging for someone else. Together, we can build communities that heal, empower, and inspire.

Let’s make belonging a priority—for ourselves and for each other.

In today’s world, where stress and disconnection seem to dominate, the concept of Gentle Teaching stands as a powerful reminder of the importance of unity, compassion, and connection in caregiving. Dr. Charles Woodard’s presentation, “Gentle Teaching Promotes Unity,” offered a heartfelt exploration of how this philosophy transforms relationships between caregivers and those they serve.

Unity: The Foundation of Gentle Teaching

Dr. Woodard highlighted that unity begins with a shared sense of purpose and mutual respect. It’s about recognizing, accepting, and appreciating the individuality of every person—caregivers, those being cared for, and the organizations that bring them together. At its core, unity is both a goal and a process, requiring unconditional love, collaboration, and understanding.

He emphasized the idea of “team” as an acronym: Together Each Achieves Much. This simple yet profound concept illustrates how working together in harmony can make even the biggest tasks manageable.

Unconditional Love as a Catalyst for Unity

Gentle Teaching is rooted in the belief that unconditional love is the highest form of care. According to Dr. Woodard, this love is kind, compassionate, and nurturing—it helps caregivers identify and meet the unique needs of others. But unconditional love must start within. Dr. Woodard shared the importance of “filling your own love tank” through positive self-talk and self-care, reminding us that caregivers can only give love if they have it themselves.

The Tools of Gentle Teaching

To foster unity, Gentle Teaching relies on four primary tools:
1. Words: Words have the power to hurt, heal, and connect. Dr. Woodard encouraged caregivers to use affirming, uplifting language, both with others and with themselves.
2. Presence: A caregiver’s demeanour and energy can create an environment of safety and trust. Being fully present and approachable sets the tone for meaningful connections.
3. Hands: A gentle, respectful touch can communicate safety and love, especially for individuals who may have experienced negative interactions in the past.
4. Eyes: A warm and compassionate gaze shows acceptance and care, allowing caregivers to truly see beyond a person’s behaviours to their underlying needs.

Why Unity Matters in Caregiving

Unity isn’t just a nice idea—it’s a practical tool that makes caregiving more effective and fulfilling. Dr. Woodard explained that when caregivers feel united and supported, they’re better equipped to withstand stress, navigate challenging situations, and provide consistent, loving care. Unity creates a ripple effect, building stronger relationships and fostering a culture of mutual respect.

Key Takeaway: Be What You Expect to See

Dr. Woodard closed his presentation with a powerful message: “Be what you expect to see.” If you want to see love, be loving. If you want to see respect, be respectful. Gentle Teaching is not just a technique; it’s a way of being. It asks caregivers to embody the values they wish to see in their interactions, creating a space where unity can flourish.

Final Thoughts

Dr. Woodard’s insights remind us that caregiving is more than a task—it’s a relationship. By embracing the principles of Gentle Teaching, caregivers can create an environment where unity, love, and mutual respect thrive, ultimately improving the lives of everyone involved.

Whether you’re a professional caregiver, a parent, or simply someone who values connection, the philosophy of Gentle Teaching offers a guide for building stronger, more compassionate relationships in all aspects of life.